It's for the children
My day started with this short Ted Talk called The Fierce Face of the Feminine. I really hope that everyone takes a few minutes to watch it. The talk is powerful and it got my head spinning. So much of it resonated so deeply in me. I had flashbacks of times when I have felt that fierce fire within me.
Times when the fire within me burned so strong that I could not hold myself back. This short little Ted Talk felt like the final piece of the puzzle. It's going to take some time to digest the realizations that I've been having all day but there is one piece of the talk that I want to start a conversation about.
Lets talk about this concept that we are all mothers and fathers of ALL the children. You know the saying "It takes a village to raise a child"? Its time to get back to this practice. When I was a kid I knew that any one of the "moms" in my life would be there for me whether it was for help or discipline. When my kids were young and would play outside they knew that the other "moms" would be there for them to help or discipline. As my girls were growing into young women they had other "moms" who have stepped in and offered guidance and advice to them.
I'm that mom that's always asking kids "does your mom know where you are?" before letting the kid hang out at my house. I'm that mom that yells at kid standing on someone's car "Get off of there before you break your neck!" I'm that mom that offers an ear to the teenager who had a fight with their own mom. I'm that mom that stands in the parking lot keeping an eye on the group of little ones blowing bubbles when there isn't any other adults around. I'm that mom that lunges to catch a kid that's climbing out the shopping cart. I'm grateful that I have had a circle of powerful women doing the same for me and my children. It is this circle of powerful women that have taught me what it means to be a mother and a woman.
I have the great privilege of witnessing my daughters becoming powerful young women in their own right. I am so proud of them that it makes my heart burst. But I can't take all the credit. They too were surrounded by a circle of powerful women guiding them and protecting them.
I never realized that this was unusual. I assumed that every community had a circle of powerful women protecting and guiding the children in their lives. If there isn't one in your community then you start one. Very simple, small changes in the way to participate in your own community will make a huge difference. If we each pledge to take responsibility for not only our own children but for all the children in our community WE can start a revolution of positive change in our world.
When the children are protected and cared for by the community, the community reaps the rewards of well rounded children. Well rounded children grow up to be productive members of society.