Yoga with Mirella Nicholson

Yoga with Mirella Nicholson

Friday, November 11, 2016

Love trumps hate

I'm not sure if it's a blessing or a curse but I can feel people's energy within my own being.  I've learned to trust what I feel from people more than I trust what they do or say.  The past few days have been intense to say the least.  I've been resisting the urge to let my emotions motivate my words and actions. I've been listening mostly.  Listening with my gut and my heart instead of my mind and ego. 

On Wednesday I think I was in shock.  I must have been in denial or maybe I was naive.  You see, I have a very diverse circle of friends.  That is a blessing.  I have friends who are passionate activists for human rights,equality and our environment.  That is a blessing.   My friends are kind, compassionate and generous.  That is a blessing.   On Tuesday when I cast my vote I truly believed that good would prevail.  I believed that my diverse circle of friends represented the masses.  I was shocked and honestly, horrified as I watched the news the next day.  Clearly I've been living in a bubble of love and light and cotton candy.   That.... was not a blessing; or was it? 

This blog is not about politics.  It's about yoga.  More specifically, it's about how I apply yoga to my day to day life.  This, my friends, is where the rubber meets the road.  It's very easy for me to feel love and compassion for my diverse circle of friends.. We all have similar values.  It's easy for me to see God in everyone when everyone I see share my ideals.   We are being given an opportunity to practice yoga.   Yoga is union... 

As I mentioned, I've been listening...  I heard a woman say "I voted for him because he's going to take care of our soldiers." her voice quivering.  Her vote felt like it  was not about hate or racism. Her vote was not to condone violence against women.  Her vote was for what she thought would help our service men and women.  

When I told someone that I couldn't vote for such a hateful man her reply was "He's not hateful. I can't vote for Hillary because of her role in Bengazi."  She was noticeably confused about why I would think he was so filled with hate.  This exchanged reminded me of an interview I watched on Super Soul Sunday.  

During the interview, these relationship experts who happened to be married were talking about ways to resolve conflicts in relationship.  The suggestion that stuck with me was this, they suggested that when you are in a relationship you have gained another set of eyes with which to see the world.  During a conflict, ask your partner  "What is it that you're seeing that I'm not?".  Asking the question puts us on the same side of the conflict and helps us work together to resolve the conflict.  It gives us an opportunity to see another perspective.  

I can honestly say that I have felt sad and disappointed when I hear that people that I love and respect voted for that man. It felt shocking to learn that people I love and respect could vote for someone who has exhibited such deplorable behavior.   What's made it a bit easier to wrap my head around their choice has been remembering why I love and respect these people.  Knowing that at their core, they are kind, loving people it begs the question "What is it that you're seeing that I'm not?" 

At the end of the day, how that man chooses to live his life does not dictate how I choose to live mine.  He does not represent me and my values.  He will no doubt bring destruction and chaos to the government as we know it.  It's going to be messy and painful but my hope is that it will clear the way for something better to emerge.   Before there can be a re-birth there must be a death.  

I sort of feel sorry for that man.  It seems God has chosen him to be the instrument  for destruction.
He has certainly exposed a shit ton of ugly in people that I never expected.  He's shown me that I was living in a bubble where I really truly believed that  racism, misogyny, and homophobia were rare rather than the norm.   He has exposed the work that needs to be done in this country and that is a blessing.  The darkness has been exposed.  It's up to us to bring the light.  

It's time to roll up our sleeves and get to work building communities and building bridges with our brothers and sisters of all races, religions and all creeds so that once the dust settles from the dismantling of a corrupt and unjust system we are ready to step up and together build a system that is founded on the values of integrity, compassion and justice for ALL humanity. 

During the destruction process I invite you to invoke the energy of Durga Ma.  Embody her and let's get to work...  



Wednesday, August 31, 2016

I apologize in advance...

Yoga-land is all a buzz about Yoga Alliance's new requirements.  Apparently, you need to prove your credentials before you can claim to be a yoga therapist on their yoga teacher registry.  It's interesting that I see this "news" just days after I see a new Facebook post about yet another teacher promoting her/himself as a "yoga therapist/counselor".   A teacher that I respect asked my thoughts.  Truth be told, I hesitated to share my honest opinion on the matter. 

I've been told, more than once, that I am too hard on people.  I expect too much of others.  I have what's been called "a strong personality".   Apparently, some people are uncomfortable with my honesty and straightforward talking so I hesitated.  I'll apologize now if what I'm about to say offends anyone.   

When  I read the Facebook post I reminded myself that I'm not the fairness police.  I reminded myself that it's none of my business what others are doing.  I told myself that I need to start deleting people on Facebook.   I have way too many yoga related posts on my news-feed.  I don't need to know what everyone else is doing. 

Then I received the Yoga Alliance email and emails from a couple of my fellow teachers wanting to know how I feel about this new requirement.   Remember, the new requirement is that unless you have the proper credentials and have proof, you can no longer promote yourself as a "yoga therapist" on the teacher registry.   Here's my honest opinion:  I think that it's a perfectly reasonable requirement.   I actually wonder why that wasn't a requirement all along.  

Let me speak first as a teacher. I have completed several yoga teacher training programs.  I have been practicing yoga for more than 20 years.  I also graduated as a Certified Ayurveda Lifestyle counselor. 
Does that make me qualified to counsel people who struggle with mental illness?  Does that make me qualified to give medical advise?  NO!!   Absolutely not.  Can I offer emotional, mental and physical support to someone dealing with mental illness or physical illness?  YES!!   Can yoga and Ayurveda be used therapeutically?  YES!!  Does that make me a yoga therapist? NO!!  Bottom line, for me?  I share what I've learned not just through my training but also (most importantly) through my own personal practice.  I also recognize when a student needs to be referred to a professional.   As a yoga teacher I take the vow of ahimsa (non-harming)  The student's well-being is the most important thing to me.  More important to me than my ego.   Perhaps it's time for the yoga community to come up with a more appropriate term for what we can offer students.  Let's leave "therapist" for the professionals.   After all, Physical therapists and mental health therapists have completed more than 200 or 300 hours of training.  They are licensed as a therapist only AFTER they pass a test to make sure they actually know enough to be called "therapist".  And let's not forget they have malpractice insurance in case they injure someone.  I would bet that your "yoga teacher insurance" would not defend you if you get sued for claiming to be a therapist of any kind without the proper credentials. 

On a final note, I would like to speak as a student.  I've taken workshops with teachers who clearly didn't have any working knowledge of the topic they were presenting on.  I took a workshop on how to make your own malas.  Aside from the fact that we didn't even have the right materials, the hand-out was an exercise in copy/paste from the internet.  What a bummer that was since I convinced 20 of my friends to join me for that one!   I've had the experience of sitting in a class with a "guest teacher" who likes to wear a lab coat and refers to his "students" as patients.  I found out later than he only completed 1 semester of pre-med.  Why be a doctor when you play one in yoga-land?! Oh, and the teacher who tells me that she's never had any formal meditation instruction and then proceeds to offer a meditation workshop.  When I invest my time and money in a class or workshop I expect that the teacher has some working knowledge of the topic they are presenting.  Is that an unrealistic expectation?  Would you consider that being too hard on people?  I don't.  I do expect truthfulness in yoga-land.  Before I take any class or workshop  I read the teacher's bio.  I've learned to read between the lines.. "I intuited this information"  translates as "I'm good at smoke and mirrors.." 

I could go on and on with examples but the bottom line for me is the safety of the students.  I know this post isn't going to make me any friends in yoga-land but truthfully,  I think it's about time that yoga alliance steps up and does what they have been claiming to do for years.  Make sure that teachers are upholding a professional standard.  Tell the truth, if you found out that your Therapist  or your medical doctor didn't have any formal training and was only presenting themselves as such how would you feel?  I would guess you'd be outraged to find out that the surgeon who's operating on you learned how to remove your appendix from watching YouTube.  What if you found out that the psychiatrist that you are taking your mentally ill family member to turns out to be just a well meaning computer tech who reads a lot of self-help books?  

If you want to be a yoga therapist then BE ONE.  Put the work into the training.   Just because you're not a "yoga therapist" doesn't mean you can't still do great work as a regular old run of the mill yoga teacher.  Be truthful always.. Even if that means people think you're too hard on others.  It scares me that a few rotten apples are spoiling yoga-land. It scares me that sick, vulnerable people are being taken advantage of.   The fact of the matter is that I really do hold yoga students and teachers to a much higher moral standard than I do the average citizen.  I feel that if the people of yoga-land actually practice what they preach then Yoga Alliance wouldn't be needed.

Don't be angry at Yoga Alliance for the new requirement... Be angry with your fellow teachers for making it necessary.   Or better yet, teach your ytt students about teaching with integrity and honesty so that the next generation of yoga teachers won't need Yoga Alliance to set the standards because they will be upholding their own moral standards.