I have to admit that I still have trouble wrapping my mind around that idea. When someone has a problem I want to fix it. Okay, the problem has been identified now let's get to work on fixing it. There has to be a solution to every problem. Right?
Last week-end my daughter and I were watching some TV show called Special Victim Unit Marathon. One of the episodes ended without telling you which suspect was actually guilty. It was one person's word against the other. It made me crazy because there must be some way to know who was guilty!! How can they end the show like that?? But in real life sometimes we don't really know for sure who's guilty or know for sure what the best solution to a problem is. Dare I say it? That sometimes there isn't a fix for a problem.
What do we do if a friend calls us with a problem that just doesn't have a fix? What if what's happening to them just plain sucks and isn't fair and there isn't anything you can do to fix it? My mind says there must be something I can do to help I just have to think harder to find it. Then I remember sister Anne's message - sometimes just having someone to talk to is help enough.
In my hast to find a solution to the problem I sometimes forget that message. I forget to listen. I forget to be that someone for a friend to talk to. I often forget to be that friend to myself too. In my hast to find a solution I forget to take the time to listen to my own inner guidance. I forget that sometimes acceptance is the solution to a problem.
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
The act of acceptance is what opens our hearts and minds so that we can listen for the inner guidance - that "wisdom to know the difference". Having someone to talk to is help enough........ Be that someone.